Trying to go hearts and flowers from your partner – or fifty-fifty for them to put an arm effectually you lot – can feel like pulling teeth.

And a lack of romance is one of the biggest complaints in new and ­long-standing relationships.

But dating expert Dr Pam Spurr is here to aid put the zing dorsum in your human relationship for jump.

She says: "For many women, their men are perfect in every other manner – reliable, a groovy dad, expert with your mum.

"Simply they're as romantic equally a house brick and won't remember to whisk y'all off on a naughty weekend.

"From my research for my latest dating guide, I know the unromantic can modify."

Hither are a dozen tips from Dr Spurr to drag romance out of him.

1 Become realistic

To kick-start a romantic vibe, you might accept to pb the fashion.

First with footling things – candles at dinner (having dinner on your laps in front of the Boob tube is a romance killer!), put on your favourite music and flirt.

Send flirty text messages during the 24-hour interval to spark his interest (

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Send him flirty messages during the day. Information technology'll spark his involvement to do the aforementioned back.

2 At that place's nothing wrong with hinting

If you've an upcoming altogether or anniversary information technology's skilful to hint.

Say things similar: "It's been a while since we've had a romantic dinner."

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Or: "Recollect those gorgeous flowers you bought me?" Said with positivity, it'll be well received.

If you lot want a bunch of flowers - drop hints (

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Or get funny near hinting. Stick a reminder that your altogether is coming up on the fridge with a memo reading: "It could be fun to practise something on this special day."

3 Keep a agenda

One relationship study establish couples who kept a agenda in their kitchen to marker dates in together were more romantic.

Problem is, nowadays our calendars are on our mobiles.

Keep a calendar and make fourth dimension to be romantic (

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Time to invest in a calendar and jot down things for you lot ii to share. It will stimulate wanting to spend more than fourth dimension together.

4 Get the gear on

Lose the faded tracksuit and occasionally slip on something you feel bonny – even sexy – in.

Looking like you lot feel good about yourself could remind him what a take hold of you lot are.

Obviously this applies to him too.

Make sure y'all slip into something that makes you feel attractive (

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And if he'southward always in un-sexy gear, tell him how much y'all love that atractive shirt he wore on New Twelvemonth'due south Eve at the pub. Let him know he looked hot.

5 Bear witness yourself in a caring-sharing light

Ask him if there'due south a surprise he'd like for his side by side birthday or landmark date he has coming up.

Inquire him if there'south a surprise he'd like for his next birthday

Until now, y'all've been thinking you're missing out but make information technology near him, too. Such selflessness on your part, making a fuss of him, won't get unnoticed.

half dozen Make a repast of it

You're not expecting him to book expensive restaurants for regular romantic evenings. Almost of usa are on tight budgets.

So occasionally ratchet upwards the sexiness of mealtimes .

Food play can ratchet upwards the sexiness of repast times (

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Show him foods like mini pizza tin be fun to feed each other. Research shows such food-play brings a couple closer together.

Finish off with luscious chocolate pudding or get exotic and melt nighttime chocolate to dip strawberries in. Yous'll both feel loved-upward and quite peradventure in the mood for more.

7 Have him dorsum in fourth dimension

Repeated studies show that couples who take time out to look through old photos feel warmer towards each other.

Especially if you've faced bad times, these remind y'all there will be expert more than practiced times around the corner.

8 Ignite his competitive spirit

Mention how your friend's partner organised a surprise for her.

Ignite his competitive side (

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Or how a colleague was whisked abroad for a surprise dark. Y'all might stimulate his competitiveness.

It's human nature to want to keep up with the Joneses and that's true when information technology comes to romance.

9 Make it emotional

Hash out your emotions as function of everyday life.

It's easy to become bogged down in talk of household budgets and chores, ignoring the meaningful things.

1 survey found couples who mention things that have made them happy, sad or angry during their day experience closer to each other.

Discuss your emotions as part of every 24-hour interval life (

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And definitely be proactive, highlighting bully things he does for you, especially any romantic gestures he's fabricated in the past.

10 Just ask him

Accept the last tip a scrap further. Clear communication will do the play tricks. Only inquire him to arrange the evening yous want.

Tell him the new place yous'd love to get cocktails, followed by the restaurant you want to try. Enquire him if he could please book it all. Tell him yous'll really appreciate information technology.

Said lovingly information technology won't suggest he'due south been a hopeless loser in the past.

eleven Watch a rom-com together

Y'all're relaxing, watching a drama or film and of a sudden there'southward a romance scene.

Spotter a rom com together to get him into the mood

Cuddle up and say, "Remember when we were like that?" Give him a squeeze, whisper loving things in his ear and testify him the warmth you feel is missing.

12 Time for 'the chat'

So nothing'due south worked. And he's still your frog (a lovable one) non a romantic prince. Time for the proper romance conversation.

Always begin positively, describing the skilful things you share. So mention y'all feel you'd be closer if yous got some romance dorsum into your lives.

Ask for his suggestions. It'southward far healthier having this chat than assuasive gnawing disappointment to abound.

  • Follow Dr Pam Spurr on Twitter @drpamspurr